So you think you want to be swingers? here's what you need to know

One of the most common fantasies among men and women alike is to watch their partner have sex with another or vice versa. The idea of couple swapping and swinging can seem great when you’re in the throws of passion, but becoming swingers isn’t something that a couple should take lightly and not something that you simply do because you ‘think it would be fun’.

The swingers lifestyle is about sex between consenting couples. It’s a lifestyle that encourages mutual satisfaction, communication and openness. All too often one person in a couple will want to try it and then start trying to convince or even pressure their partner to give in and sadly, there are many times wives and girlfriends who will go through with it for the sole purpose of pleasing their partner and this is wrong. No one should ever do something because they feel like they have no choice. Many times a woman will give into swinging in hopes of saving a failing marriage and this is also not the right reason to get into such a lifestyle.

If you and your partner share an open and honest relationship where you both feel comfortable communicating freely about sex, then you have a good foundation to start with. Swinging isn’t something that you should jump into on a whim but rather something that you talk about until you are BOTH certain that you want to give it a try. Talk about it, check out websites about swingers and the lifestyle, and maybe even seek out some advice from couples who swing—easily done through an adult dating site or a swingers site.

Swinging isn’t going to be right for everyone no matter how much you may feel you want to do it. If there is the slightest hesitation on either your part; then you are not ready. You also need to consider the possible consequences of bringing someone else into your sex life, such as jealousy. You need to discuss how you will deal with it and really think abut whether or not you’ll be able to handle it once it actually happens. Be honest about these feelings even if you think it’s not what your partner wants to hear.

Once you have talked about again and again and then some more; it’s time to get started. If you’ve already been researching the lifestyle, then you know that creating a profile on a swingers or adult dating site is a good start at finding other swingers. Don’t feel bad mentioning that you are first-timers; they’ve all been in your shoes before! Take the time to choose your playmates carefully and together so that you both are more likely to enjoy the experience. Remember to be courteous, not pushy and always use discretion for your sake and theirs. And of course; ALWAYS practice safe sex even if you and your partner have not used condoms with each other in years!