The Singles guide to Swinging

Swinging is often referred to as wife or couple swapping and though it is mostly practiced by those in a committed relationship; singles are able to enjoy the lifestyle as well assuming that they follow certain rules.

The first thing as a single looking to give swinging a shot, you need to understand that many couples are only interested in other couples and may not welcome singles. You need to respect that whether you are chatting with them online or interacting with them at a club or party and understand that if they’re not interested; you need to take no for an answer and keep on looking. No always means no and that is something that you need to always remember in order to not only enjoy the experience but also avoid trouble.

When looking for potential swinging partners online, be sure to make it clear that you are a single looking for couples. No one appreciates being misled, so you need to be totally up front. Be friendly and willing to chat first without trying to rush a meeting with a couple; they are after all a committed couple who is letting you in to their intimate life which requires a delicate and patient approach. You should also be forthcoming with information about yourself and a picture. When it comes to swinging, people in the lifestyle are selective and pride themselves on choosing quality and likeminded couples, so to let a single in, they want to be sure that you are more than some crazed perv looking to get his rocks off. Swinging isn’t about a quick one night stand or threesome or orgy, but rather consenting adults sharing mutual respect and an interest in sharing sexual pleasure with one another—not selfishly going in, getting what you need and then disappearing!

If you’re looking to attend a swingers club or event, you need to confirm that singles are allowed as the rules tend to vary. Some places will only allow single females while others may allow single men for a higher price. There are also clubs that will allow a man in as along as he is accompanied by a woman even if they are not an actual couple. Whatever the rule, you need to follow it. It will save you time and money to get informed before hand and then proceed accordingly.

To get the best insight into swinging, you should seek the advice of someone in the scene. If you don’t know anyone offhand who swings; the same adult dating site that you use to look for partners or sex can be a great resource. Swingers are often very understanding and willing to offer advice or answer questions since they have all be new to the scene themselves at one time. Be honest with them about what you want to know and about your interest and reasons for looking into swinging so that they can better help you decide if it is really for you and how to proceed. They can be a fountain of information for a newbie like yourself and be more helpful than any other resource.